Just my rambling thoughts about being gay and Mormon

Friday, November 26, 2010

go with the flow - no more hanging on in fear

In the Church was are constantly hit up with messages that we are fighting against the world, evil, our own nature, people who don't like us, etc...  I think this can ingrain an attitude of conflict, which is not helpful.  I'm pretty much convinced that we need to take a deep breath, lay back, and do more enjoying of the journey and less getting bent out of shape over things we can't control, while doing what we can to improve our life and the lives of others in positive ways.

Meg Wheatley gives a great analogy of people who to struggle to hold on to the shoreline of a river and those who float along doing what they can to get where they want to go but also enjoying the ride.  We can't control the flow of the river so our choice is to fight it or accept it.  She encourages people to banish the word struggle from their vocabulary, something I'm trying to live.  For me, struggle implies that someone other than me controls my life.  It also implies forced change, which is not compatible with the teachings of Christ.  

I think Meg does a wonderful job of teaching the difference between struggle and perseverance.  In her latest book, "Perseverance", she teaches that  

"Perseverance is a day-by-day decision not to give up.  Wheatley does not offer the usual feel-good, rah-rah messages.  Instead, she focuses on the situations, feelings, and challenges that can, over time, cause us to lose heart or lose our way. When we feel lost, overwhelmed, betrayed or exhausted, we need to know we have a choice for how we respond.  And we have to nurture the rewarding times, when we experience the joy of working together on something hard but worthwhile, when we realize we’ve made a small difference." 

meg wheatley web site

 I hope you will find something of value to you in her teachings.  Enjoy!

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