Jana Riess, over at the Religion News Service, wrote a great piece today that points out one of the real problems with the Mormon leaders policies. In brief, it is that the Church Handbook of Instructions essentially equates homosexual activity with child abuse and could follow you forever on the church records!
I know for a fact that when you tell a Mormon church leader something in confidence, it probably won't just stay with him. In some cases, it follows you in secret for the rest of your life.
Read Jana's article, its very good. She is correct, the church needs to stop this practice, NOW.