Just my rambling thoughts about being gay and Mormon

Friday, August 23, 2013

Celestial Kingdom or bust

An acquaintance whom I greatly admire for his courage and activism recently commented that his deceased parent would probably not be happy in the Celestial Kingdom as typically described in Mormonism.
Likewise, I don't think I would be too happy in the commonly described Mormon heaven. Not because heaven, according to my thinking would not be nice, but because the descriptions of it are outdated. 
The descriptions of heaven for many religions throughout the ages have tended to focus on resolving the problems faced by believers at the time the description was written, envisioning a paradise where current day troubles would not exist. 

The Mormon heaven is typical. A majority of Mormon descriptions of heaven were written when polygamy was very important to Mormonism and deeply hated by their neighbors. It envisioned a place where polygamy was the law and where the more wives a man had the higher his exaltation. This has been downplayed by the church in recent years but there is still a heavy emphasis on heaven being only for married heterosexual couples, and the more children the better.

During a time a intense persecution (self induced or otherwise) heaven was envisioned by Mormons as a place where their enemies could not go regardless of their righteousness. If you were anti-Mormon you were not going to make it to heaven. This again has faded somewhat, but not entirely.

Anyway, my point is that heaven, like many things in religion, is described by religious leaders in a way that is appealing to believers to encourage further commitment to the religion. To be meaningful for believers heaven must solve their current problems and satisfy their wants and needs.
I have yet to hear an explanation of the Mormon Celestial Kingdom that satisfies my problems, wants and needs, as a gay 21st century man. I have a belief in the afterlife and I believe it will generally be a good life for me because I'm a good person. The Mormon version of heaven condemns me for no fault of my own so I have little use for it.  

Tuesday, August 20, 2013

The truth is ...

I love that quote. It's so often true.

 The truth is there are more questions in life than answers. Learn to love the unknowable.

The truth is that anyone who says they know for sure should not be completely trusted

The truth is that you will be OK if you keep going and try to be your best

The truth is that doors you don't expect will open and sometimes you will catch a brief glimpse of the future. You will find friends in places you don't expect.

The truth is that people you love will disappoint you. Don't take it personal. Love them anyway.

 The truth is that God loves you just the way you are

The truth is that you are awesome so don't be afraid to be yourself

Saturday, August 3, 2013

It's been a while ... sorry, I've been out being gay...

Wow, I've been away for a long time.  Sorry about that.  It's a great time to be gay in America and I've been out and about enjoying it.

I've supported the fight for marriage equality across the country and participated as more and more states have changed their outdated laws.  I celebrated the Supreme Court's recent decisions supporting marriage equality.
 I've attended Pride festivals and parades in several cities and participated in amazing gatherings of LGBT folk. 

I've met some really cool guys and gone on dates in many of the cities that I've visited. I continue to be amazed at the diversity, talent, and strength in gay communities across the US.

 I've continued to follow the pace of change within the Mormon church. For some, it probably seems like rapid change but considering where the organization started, they are still decades behind and I continue to believe that they won't catch up during my lifetime.
I am happier than I ever thought possible. There are still times when it's easier to cry than anything else but overall, I'm doing great and loving life.

I will try to do better at posting to this blog on a more regular basis...but don't hold your breath.  Love you all.