Just my rambling thoughts about being gay and Mormon

Sunday, February 16, 2014

No Tad NO!

I usually stay far away from the Mormon church's magazine, The Ensign. However when I heard about an article in the March 2014 edition, I had to see it for myself so I looked it up online. I was really astounded by the toxicity of it. 

I refer to the article written by Elder Tad R. Callister entitled "What is the Lord's Standard of Morality?" It gets top billing on the magazine cover.

Many of the main points of the article have been debunked for many years and have already caused so much unnecessary self loathing and spiritual, emotional, and physical harm, that I simply can't believe that the LDS Church could allow them to be published AGAIN.

The author's discussion and statements on everything from masturbation to same sex attraction and pornography are absolutely wrong. He spouts a culture of fear and dishonesty where people disown their sexuality and hate their own flesh.

He uses terminology and concepts that are no longer recognized by professionals who deal with sexuality on a daily basis. What he teaches is toxic and dangerous. It has harmed many many Mormons. It has damaged many marriages because the marriage partners fail to understand or appreciate their own sexuality. 

I thought this outdated sexual bullshit was slowing disappearing from the church - but apparently it is alive and being preached from the highest levels. That is very sad. It needs to be replaced with a healthy and honest discussion of sexuality, love, and the human body.

Callister's comments on modesty are just offensive. They are only valid in the world of fear and dishonesty he creates. Millions of people have enjoyed the pleasure of a sunny afternoon on a nude beach and they are better off for having enjoyed it!

He and others like him are responsible for Utah's very high rate of teem suicide, particularly in the LGBTQ community!

This teaching is also damaging to the church itself. There are many members who have learned for themselves, often after a prolonged period of intense prayer, that many of the concepts that Callister teaches are wrong. A lot of these people are now former members who have found happiness and peace when they let go of false and damaging beliefs and accept and love themselves as the sexual beings that God created. I've felt for a long time that the church is losing its best and brightest and this Ensign article is a great example of why they leave.

For a more in-depth and professional critique of this Ensign article go here:

1 comment:

  1. I am going to have to look up this article now. It seems like the church takes one step forward (supporting SLC anti-discrimination laws) and then takes 4 steps back!!